Synchronicity Encounter With Strephon And Meditation Seeker

Our 12 minute video introduces us to a meaningful encounter with a participant in a meditation retreat at the De Poort Center in the Netherlands.

What seems to characterize Strephon Kaplan-Williams approach to people is how they unfold with Strephon, revealing their core truths. Strephon comes in briefly only at important points to affirm this stranger's reality, whom he has never met before.

Notice how many synchronicities seem to happen during this consciousness conversation?

The wind noise? The same black car flashes by twice at critical points in the conversation. A woman walking away in the background is caught doing something fundamental. What else? The song of the birds?

Ah, something else quite unique happens also, as if these chance encounters are meant to happen between people as affirmations of meaning in their daily life, however aware they are of what is happening to them and through them.

When two aware people meet just by proximity at first, what is the value to each one of them. What are my issues? What needs healing? How is this encounter part of my own process?

Synchronicity is not something your write about, as in popular books. To actually live these moments that happen to you? Ah, that is the question.

The greater context? How does one make ones life's sourced with meaning? And without becoming ego inflated and making a religion out of synchronicity, as many seem to be doing these days?

The principle for living? Live from the core self. Know ones issues and keep working with them through Love and Awareness. If we do our part, will there not also be a response from The Other Side?

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Consciousness Commitment

Consciousness is the meta level to existence. You make your choices and take action based on the core principles of existence. In this you are then grounded in what is real in life.

Commitment to living core principles means you are eating away at the unconsciousness that you and most people live at.

You know what you are doing, and you do what you know.

You are living life consciously.

You become aware of things as they are.

CORE PRINCIPLES

Live from core principles, such as balance the energy, integrate opposites, create wholes including all the parts, choose to integrate and affirm new unities.

REALITY AWARENESS

Live from awareness of what is. This means accept all of reality as it comes your way, rejecting nothing. Yet balance the energy. Don’t try to overwhelm someone or something. Don’t lose. Don’t win.

CHOICE

Make choices, choosing one thing and not other possibilities. Choice is the one absolute. What we choose is what we become.

GREATER GUIDANCE

Choose to follow greater guidance than ego in your life. When you do this you have the larger perspective. You do not put your own ego desires first but choose a greater value to live by.

You make choices based on core principles and values.

You make purposeful and meaningful your life.

COMMITMENT

You make a sustained choice to live from a greater source than ego. You do not fail this choice. Commitment to a value is the sustained choice that underlies all other choices that you make in daily life.

Explaining Eckhart Tolle

Oprah has a monday night series on the web in conversation with Eckhart Tolle, philosopher-author of The Power Of Now and The New Earth. Strephon opens a series of commentaries on the class of the evening. This is the first class. Strephon both explains the philosophical concepts and where psychologists, based on experience, differ. Well worth watching the original video and also Strephon's commentary.

Questions:

• Do you have a purpose for living your life?
• When you relate to another, do you share how you see life and yourself?
• Are you ego-centric or value-centric?
• What are you learning?

A Strephon Story

Male Seduction Of Females As A Kind Of Inverse Commitment

As a dreamwork psychologist and psychotherapist it has been my lot to work with all sorts of people. It was not my job, of course to understand them, but to help them understand themselves and do something responsible about their personalities. Thus I tried to combine my values with their needs, not alway a happy thing to do.

A significant number of people could fit this story’s prototype but I include only a few case histories here.

I had a male client once, around thirty-five who had several sessions with me once a week. I kept trying to find out what his problem was and why he came to me. We got into talking about his feeling lack of fulfillment in his sexual life. He simply could not find the right woman for him or hold onto her.

As part of his sharing he told me that his method for seducing women was to take them to dances and their indirectly ask them about their fathers. He said he could tell from how they responded whether he could seduce them that night or not.

I thought we had enough sessions under the belt that he would trust me if I challenged him, so I asked him on what basis he felt it right to seduce women like this by manipulating them?

He got angry and that was the last session we ever had. He lacked commitment to work on his real self. He wanted his problem solved but he had not committed to changing himself as the realistic price to pay for healing himself and becoming a successful relator.

In a Dark Side way he was committed, or compulsive, about seducing women, but he was not consciously committed to a value, because he would not change his destructive pattern, destructive to himself and to at least some women.

An Ambition Story: 

I once called together three other writers on dreams to found a society for the study of dreams and dreamwork in the many approaches. Unbeknownst to me, one of the writers manipulated a meeting of our founding committee by introducing there her husband and her friend, both psychiatrists. We met in her house so she just took over the meeting, forcing another important member to resign. 

Her ambition had gotten the better of her and she had run roughshod over the rest of us. She had commitment, but again of the compulsive kind. She took over by a kind of force and changed the organization to one run by herself and her people at first.

She was committed to her own career and image but not to the value of cooperation with others who had trusted her. Her commitment, her single focus was to herself and power, no matter the damage to others who to her stood in her way. 

Commitment itself is not a value but a method of will-power to prevail over others or over a situation or problem. It has been said Hitler was committed, but to what? The death’s head symbol and to killing others in order to obtain control over them and their resources.

The Teaching:

Commitment is not enough. Commitment to a positive and One World Value is more like it. Don’t destroy in the pursuit of a new community value. Don’t run rough-shod over people because you think exercising personal will is a value for yourself when it may in fact be destructive to yourself and others.

AGENDA FOR COMMITMENT FORMAT

I agree in making this commitment with myself and you that I will stay focused on a certain value, goal, service or project for a certain amount of time we both agree on, say three years.

This means that the choice I make to the value defined will be an overriding choice that I do not go against if at all possible for me, despite whatever circumstances come my way to obstruct the choice and goal.

Definition Of This Commitment:

Goal:

Value:

Resources Committed:

Specifics Of This Commitment:

Strength Of This Commitment:

Time Length Of This Commitment:

Steps In This Commitment:

Specifics Of This Commitment:

Fundamental Choices To Be Made Starting Now:

Ongoing Way Of Reporting On This Commitment:

How We Or I Process The Ongoing Results Of This Commitment:

Relating Involved In This Commitment:

Termination Procedure And Date Of This Commitment:

Procedure: Of course discuss each of these aspects of making a commitment with anyone else making the same commitment with you, like to a marriage or business partnership.

If just for yourself, then you can write freely to all these aspects, and then refine them down into clear sentences that represent what you are to do in making a certain commitment to yourself.

Of course we don’t just make commitments to others. How many of us have made almost formal commitments like this to ourselves? And if so, how did it all work out?

The tool of commitment can be highly effective. List also distractions or weakening actions that can destroy a commitment you try to make.

• not being clear at the beginning what you are committing to
• not being clear at the beginning how you are carrying through on the commitment
• not being clear on how you make choices in life that you carry through on
• not being clear on whether you are capable in resources and personality for making such a commitment
• not being realistic in what the goals and values are of the commitment
• not being realistic whether you have the power, knowledge, resouces and cooperation of others needed to carry out the commitment
• don’t commit to the impossible
• commit to the possible
• don’t try and make the impossible possible
• do try to make the possible actual if it has the chief value

COMMIT TO BEING COMMITTED IN LIFE

Still don’t know what to do? Read this:

If you don’t know what Commitment means or how to do it, start today or tomorrow, no, tomorrow is too late, with a little commitment you know you can carry through on. Once that commitment is successfully carried out, then make a bigger more challenging commitment and carry through on that as well. Thus, keep building your strength in carrying through on commitments you make.

RESOURCES

- buy and read Strephon’s book,

My Greatest Loves

, on how he develoed commitment in his relationships life and what resulted when he or others did not commit to themselves or the relationships started.

- buy

The Jungian-Senoi Dreamwork Manual

to learn how people committed to working with their dreams stuck with their process, or gave up on it.

- sign up for our

Three-Month Mini-Course On Commitment

. This course is a self-help weekly lessons course that you get from us and do at home. You commitment to changing some aspect of yourself by doing the lessons from Strephon Kaplan-Williams and reporting your results on the Comments page given you. You have access to all of Strephon’s teaching videos on the subject as well as the comments of others who also have done, or are doing, the mini-course. By carrying through on the course commitments you will change some aspect of yourself. We ask that you commit to the course and commit to change for the better some aspect of yourself. We do not judge you as to whether you failed or succeeded, as happens in school systems. We support you in experiencing a struggle to develop commitment within yourself.

- people are often asked to achieve goals not having experienced commitment training in itself. They are not prepared. So by working through our course you experience yourself working with the ways to develop committed actions and choices in your life.

- unsuccessful people are almost always uncommitted people

- successful people are almost always people who know how to commit to values and projects and achieve values and success in a committed way.

- if you don’t sacrifice what you have for what you don’t have you will never succeed in your chosen goals and purposes in life.

Just to show some commitment here in the moment you can choose right now to write down some of your thoughts fresh from reading this material. No one is telling you to do so, however.

You can try and live your life by trying to get people to tell you what to do. Or you can live your life by committing to values and projects that you carry out yourself, thus growing in strength and skills for what you can accomplish in life.

The Ego Chooses

Strephon does a podcast and vodcast on the nature of the ego. This can be important since what Strephon emphasizes is that everyone has an ego that can get in the way or developed in the right way, make one effective and fulfilled.

The choice is up to you!

Concepts covered: ego, ego identity, ego functions, ego choice-making, choice-making, awareness, consciousness, projecting, creative, right practice.

Suggestion: practice these concepts by making a list of choices at the end of your day, by discussing with a friend, giving personal examples, and by writing in your journal to the following:

1. What does your ego identity consist of, such as images, expectations, family affiliations, attitudes, memories of who you were, whether you are that way today or not.
2. Associate your ego self-identity to the strong choices you have made in your life so far. How have they defined you?
3. Disidentify from these ego identities by knowing them but realizing you don't have to live them in today's terms just because they were you in the past.
4. Soon after you arise from bed list the choices you are going to make today.
5. At the end of your day before bed, list the choices you have made today.
6. Keep a Choice-making Journal in which you do identity exercises, such as putting things in there about yourself and your choices at least once a week.

Identity 2

Identity 1

Choicemaking

If you don’t learn how to make effective choices you will always be reacting to life instead of acting in life.

You are in conflict, little or big. Time to make a choice.

A choice is saying Yes to one thing and No to everything that opposes it. We direct energy one way and not another.


We sacrifice certain possibilities in order to have other possibilities. There is no one right choice. There are only choices and their consequences.

What we choose is what we become.
There is no simpler way than to list in separate lists the minuses and pluses for a certain choice.

Yet first list what are the possibilities in the situation? You have a problem, a potential to realize, a conflict to solve.

◆ List first the possibilities for an outcome that can be effected now or in the near future. From these possibilities pick the most desirable for you and the most possible.

What you want may not be possible. You may have to want what you get, rather than expect to get what you want.

• List the possibilities realizable now or in the near future. Pick the best and most realizable. Make lists for and against these possibilities.
• List what you have to give up if you make a choice for something. List what you might gain. List the values for going in a certain direction, making a certain choice.

Now before you choose, also make conscious the fundamental choice underlying all your choices. This is a value you live by. To solve the dilemma of what to do or choose for refer to a fundamental value you have chosen to live in this life.

Try to choose from positive motivation and not negative motivation.

Negative motivation is choosing from fear, from what could go wrong. Choose for what could go right. Risk for the new value.

Now make your choice if the time is right and you have the means to carry through on your choice.

Choose and never look back.

Choose by saying Yes to the one thing most valuable, and also say No to all that go against the value you have chosen.

Make an absolute choice, ending any ambivalence. If you go back on a choice you were not really making a choice.

Now deal with the consequences of your choice. Enhance the rewards. Make them conscious and create with what comes of your choice.

Express gratitude in some way that positive things are happening out of your choice.

If negative things are happening out of your choice, sort out their reality. Are they really bad, or do you need to see that actualizing your choice is turning out to be more difficult than you thought?

Stay with the program until after the results are in. Then appreciate the results if positive or deal with the results if negative. You can repair almost anything.

Choices do not defeat you, though their consequences might. You only defeat yourself by wanting too much and not seeing reality as it is.

At least you tried and have learned more about how things work in life. There is almost no choice that is not redeemable. Yet take responsibility and deal with the choices you have made, and their consequences.

Affirm fundamental values.
Trust the process.
You have nothing to lose but your unconsciousness, your fears and your longings.
Trust the process.
Never look back or all may be lost. Your future is before you, not behind you.
Choose, and what you choose is what you become.