Choicemaking

If you don’t learn how to make effective choices you will always be reacting to life instead of acting in life.

You are in conflict, little or big. Time to make a choice.

A choice is saying Yes to one thing and No to everything that opposes it. We direct energy one way and not another.


We sacrifice certain possibilities in order to have other possibilities. There is no one right choice. There are only choices and their consequences.

What we choose is what we become.
There is no simpler way than to list in separate lists the minuses and pluses for a certain choice.

Yet first list what are the possibilities in the situation? You have a problem, a potential to realize, a conflict to solve.

◆ List first the possibilities for an outcome that can be effected now or in the near future. From these possibilities pick the most desirable for you and the most possible.

What you want may not be possible. You may have to want what you get, rather than expect to get what you want.

• List the possibilities realizable now or in the near future. Pick the best and most realizable. Make lists for and against these possibilities.
• List what you have to give up if you make a choice for something. List what you might gain. List the values for going in a certain direction, making a certain choice.

Now before you choose, also make conscious the fundamental choice underlying all your choices. This is a value you live by. To solve the dilemma of what to do or choose for refer to a fundamental value you have chosen to live in this life.

Try to choose from positive motivation and not negative motivation.

Negative motivation is choosing from fear, from what could go wrong. Choose for what could go right. Risk for the new value.

Now make your choice if the time is right and you have the means to carry through on your choice.

Choose and never look back.

Choose by saying Yes to the one thing most valuable, and also say No to all that go against the value you have chosen.

Make an absolute choice, ending any ambivalence. If you go back on a choice you were not really making a choice.

Now deal with the consequences of your choice. Enhance the rewards. Make them conscious and create with what comes of your choice.

Express gratitude in some way that positive things are happening out of your choice.

If negative things are happening out of your choice, sort out their reality. Are they really bad, or do you need to see that actualizing your choice is turning out to be more difficult than you thought?

Stay with the program until after the results are in. Then appreciate the results if positive or deal with the results if negative. You can repair almost anything.

Choices do not defeat you, though their consequences might. You only defeat yourself by wanting too much and not seeing reality as it is.

At least you tried and have learned more about how things work in life. There is almost no choice that is not redeemable. Yet take responsibility and deal with the choices you have made, and their consequences.

Affirm fundamental values.
Trust the process.
You have nothing to lose but your unconsciousness, your fears and your longings.
Trust the process.
Never look back or all may be lost. Your future is before you, not behind you.
Choose, and what you choose is what you become.